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Day Seventy-One: Navigating Manhood in A Confusing World-Balancing & Awakening the Divine Masculine


Yesterday we spoke about how women are confused in our society

and about what feminine concepts we can embrace whilst maintaining

our strength and personal power.

After being a teacher, counselor, child care worker and mother for

decades I have learned that boys and men are just as confused about

how much of their masculinity they are allowed to embrace without

looking scary or too hard. They are expected to be sensitive to other

fellow human beings (namely the women in their lives) all the

while maintaining a strong and impenetrable focused manly facade.

Women want their men to be strong and husky but they conversely

want their men to ravage them passionately.

Men are questioned and even ridiculed for assuming typically female

roles (nursing, caregiving, stay at home dad…) so they too are being

marginalized by our society and their dreams-no matter how honorable

can also be put under a microscope.

This causes a wildfire effect of a lack of pursuing their true selves and

embracing the roles they feel they are here to fill.

If a man is unbalanced he can end up being fanatical

and too aggressive-abusive and controlling. What has happened to these

men-to their core-where did things go wrong? Are they too subconsciously

affected by our societies image of what men are supposed to be? Are they

too detached from themselves too find their way back to their true essence?

The way a boy is raised can have so much to do with how much he is able

to express himself. I have put this into practice with my son. I have always

encouraged him to maintain his innate sensitive personality and have never

made him feel shame for showing his emotions.

There is so much beauty in the divine masculine and if men were encouraged

free to explore the best parts of masculinity the world would be a much more

welcome, balanced and harmonious place to live.


Morning Meditation:

TED Talk-The Demise of Men-Philip Zimbardo


Journal Entry: What messages have you been given throughout your

life that you feel have detached you from your true essence? Who 

had the most influence in your life when it came to embracing your

core self? Where your feminine qualities stifled or stripped away?

Do you feel balanced as a male in today’s society? Think of a time

when you felt very balanced as a man-what was your situation?

How can you move in the direction of that way of being now?


Yoga Flow Especially for Men


Videos that Enhance and Pu-ruse the Topic of Masculinity


Evening Meditation

Day Thirty-Two: The Upside of Depression-Meloncholy As Spiritual Awakening

My darkest hours typically followed a traumatic or heartbreaking

incident that occurred in my life; a death, a loss of job or relationship,

high amounts of stress…But there were some times where the darkness

threw it’s suffocating cloak over my head for no tangible reason. My

life was seemingly smooth and the darkness would invade the confines

of my mind leaving me confused and trying not to submit to the

detrimental thoughts that consumed me. I could not understand why

I was so unhappy when there was nothing I could see in my path that

was a blockage. Maybe my internal soul sensed it and whispered unconsciously

for me to pay attention and analyze what I was receiving from my surroundings.

Fortunately I always have faith that the cloak of darkness will lead me

to a more enlightened and brighter path. I finally searched and found others

that share this philosophy (see the speakers below). In order to embrace

a new and more well suited path, we must dredge through the life

threatening swamp full of thorns and quicksand. Linda Miller said it best

in her TED Talk (below) about how there are two sides to the door

of depression and one of them is a Spiritual Awakening. Like life’s

Ying and Yang, I have always believed that unless one experiences

pure pain and darkness one cannot appreciate ecstasy and

intense unadulterated joy. Could then, depressions purpose be

to slow us down so that we can see the intricacies of what led us down

the changing path more clearly? Could it be a time for us to get back

or transform into our true self? Could it be an awakening to allow

us to embrace and appreciate the happiness unconditionally and without

blockages when we emerge from our trans-formative cocoon?

The days I believe that this feeling will lead me in the right direction

I can move forward, the days I can’t see the possibilities I feel consumed

by sadness and despair. So even if the idea that I am experiencing a

spiritual awakening is a placebo ; it assists me in getting through this

time in my life with a more hopeful and anticipatory attitude.


Today’s focus is the realization that life is meaningful and

so are the steps along our journey. We need to trust and embrace

them with the knowledge that the universe will take care of us.

Morning Meditation-Kundalini Awakening


Journal Entry; Write about a traumatic or depressing time in 

your life; what led you there? Did you come out the other side 

more enlightened? What changes occurred as a result?


Two Sides of One Door: Lisa Miller

Psychosis or Spiritual Awakening

Depression is a Disease of Civilization


Evening Meditation-A Spiritual Treasure Chest

Much Love, Peace & Namaste



Day Twenty-Seven: “The Art of Sleep”: Natural Ways to Reduce Insomnia

From the time I was a small child I remember being in my dimly lit

bedroom, the house silent, faint snores coming from the hallway

unable to feel tired let alone sleep. When I did sleep it was like a

miracle happened and I had no recollection of how and when this

blissful sleep overtook me. I tried everything-all the old housewife

remedies-honey on toast, chamomile tea, a warm mug of milk,

a hot bath, lavender oil but still my brain just wanted to be alert

constantly. Thoughts racing around like rats in a scientific maze.

Some nights the frustration caused so much anxiety that I would

beg God to just take me so I could rest my mind and thoughts.

My mother was the same way. I remember specifically one night

when I was five years old. When I fell asleep (it was the one of the

rare nights I did) my room was green with white and red checkers.

The next morning the  light shone in through my naked window frame

as I strained to open my eyes. My mom was tapping me on the shoulder, singing

her wake up song-which I so adored…”Rise and Shine and Give God

Your Glory Glory!!!” She held a large pink bundle in her hand and said,

“you have to wake up-I want to put your new sheets on the bed.”

As I blinked my eyelids fully open and they adjusted to the bright

sun I noticed that my mom was covered head to toe in Pepto Bismo

coloured paint; the fumes assaulted my senses.  My bed was no longer on

the far left wall but in the centre of the room.

My bedroom was now baby pink and there was plastic covering all the furniture.

In shock and speechless I sat up as my mom chirped “What do you think honey?

Do you like it?” I asked her how in the hell she managed to completely repaint

my room as I slept during the night, she even painted the inside of the closet.

I unfortunately had the trait of insomnia passed down to me.

In my Counselling office and in discussion with friends and people in

general I notice that one of the biggest issues and causes of mental

illness is long standing sleep deprivation. It can slowly decline your

quality of life and ability to cope with the stress of daily living.

Ten years ago I escaped from the insomnia trap and I did that

by learning and utilizing guided meditations/visualizations every

single night (as well as sleeping beside the man I love surrounded

by at least five cozy pillows!

Have fun with the variety of sleep remedies, ideas, exercises.


Morning Meditation: Louise Hay-Morning Meditation


32 Solutions for When You Can’t Sleep



Informed Viewing: TED Talks-A Playlist on Insomnia Talks


Music To Cure Insomnia


Natural Sleep Dust-A Fun Little Project



Whipped Sleepy time Rub-Another Fun Recipe



Herbal Sleep Tea Recipe




Laughter is the Best Medicine: The 25 Most Awkward Cat

Sleeping Positions:




Top Ten Yoga Positions to Cure Insomnia


Reading Material:

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Evening Meditation for Insomnia; Jason Stephenson

Peace, Love & Namaste