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Day Seventy-Four: Soul Connections Series Lesson One: Soul Mates


Over the next few days we are going to go over some of the different

“spiritual/soul connections” that have been explored over time. I will

discuss one each day over the next three days. The three most prevalent

soul connections are: soul mates, twin souls and twin flames.

There are two types of people in the world today; the people that

truly believe, from the bottom of their very hearts that there is

one person out there that will be their #1, the yin to their yang,

the person that will complete them and love them unconditionally

just the way they are.

Can believing in a soul mate make life more exciting and thrilling or

can it lead to a world of hurt if we never find that “one” and spend

our lives on an endless search for someone more?

Conversely if we only relate to our possible lovers with an air of

superficiality then the magic has been extinguished before it can

begin. We are living in a constant state of numbness. Is that

really living?

How do we navigate the feelings we have when we meet a person

that we deeply connect to? Are the feelings deep love, lust,

like, nurturing…How do we know?

Fear has a tendency to stifle many of our feelings and twist them

into a salty pretzel of confusion and denial-resulting in us stumbling

through life with a blindfold on and no love direction.

The pure excitement of navigating a new relationship can leave

some craving that initial feeling and lead to a life of constant

one night stands or quickie relationships.

A relationship that makes us feel alive and truly ourselves is what

we all strive to find in our lifetime-but in order to find that it

seems we must first love ourselves unconditionally so we are not

always reaching out for someone else to define us and fill the voids

that we have within.

The first soul connection lesson is about soul mates:

Throughout history philosophers like Plato and Edgar Cayce

have used the term soul mates to tell stories that describe

and explain that feeling of deep connection that traditionally

a man and woman feel to one another.

The term soul mates has now evolved to break through gender

roles-one can deeply love anyone else regardless of gender or sexual




A soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity.[1] This may involve similarity, love, romance,friendship, intimacy, sexuality, sexual activity, spirituality, or compatibility and trust.[2]


Here is a list taken from The Huffington Post: The 10 Elements of a Soul Mate

The 10 Elements of a Soulmate:

1. It’s something inside. Describing how a soulmate makes you feel is difficult. It’s a tenacious, profound and lingering emotion which no words can encompass.

2. Flashbacks. If your partner is your soulmate, chances are he or she has been present in your past lives. Soulmates often choose to come back together during the same lifetime and scope each other out in the big world. You might suddenly and briefly experience flashbacks of your soulmate. You might even feel an odd sense of déjà vu, as if the moment in time has already taken place, perhaps a long time ago, perhaps in a different setting.

3. You just get each other. Ever met two people who finsh each other’s sentences? Some people call that spending too much time together, but I call it a soulmate connection. You might experience this with your best friend or your mother, but it is the telltale sign of a soulmate when you experience it with your partner.

4. You fall in love with his (or her) flaws. No relationship is perfect, and even soulmate relationships will experience ups and downs. Still, that bond will be much harder to break. Soulmates have an easier time of accepting, even learning to love, each other’s imperfections. Your relationship is more likely to be a soulmate match if you both love each other exactly as you each are, accepting both the great and awful tendencies we all have.

5. It’s intense. A soulmate relationship may be more intense than normal relationships, in both good and sometimes bad ways. The most important thing is that, even during negative episodes, you’re focused on resolving the problem and can see beyond the bad moment.

6. You two against the world. Soulmates often see their relationship as “us against the world.” They feel so linked together that they’re ready and willing to take on any feat of life, so long as they have their soulmate by their side. Soulmate relationships are founded on compromise and unity above all else.

7. You’re mentally inseparable. Soulmates often have a mental connection similar to twins. They might pick up the phone to call each other at the exact same time. Though life may keep you apart at times, your minds will always be in tune if you are soulmates.

8. You feel secure and protected. Regardless of the gender of your partner, he or she should always make you feel secure and protected. This means that if you’re a man, yes, your woman should make you feel protected, too! Your soulmate will make you feel like you have a guardian angel by your side. A person who plays on your insecurities, whether consciously or subconsciously, is not your soulmate.

9. You can’t imagine your life without him (or her). A soulmate is not someone you can walk away from that easily. It is someone you can’t imagine being without, a person you believe is worth sticking with and fighting for.

10. You look each other in the eye. Soulmates have a tendency to look into each other’s eyes when speaking more often than ordinary couples. It comes naturally from the deep-seated connection between them. Looking a person in the eye when speaking denotes a high level of comfort and confidence.

Whether you’re designed by the universe to be soulmates or two loving people who have settled for each other’s strengths and weaknesses, the decision is yours. The beauty of free will is that you can remain in or change any relationship as you see fit. To be with your soulmate is one of the precious treasures of life. And if you feel you’ve found your heart’s other half, I wish you endless days of joy and laughter, and countless nights of deep embrace, unraveling the mysteries of the universe one by one.

To love,

Dr. Carmen Harra

Morning Meditation


Journal Entry: Do you believe in soul mates? Have you ever had such a deep spiritual

or soul connection with someone that you can’t deny there is something more to

it then the superficial? How did you feel? What was your perception of what a

soul mate was before learning more? What is your perception now?

Another Awesome Talk by Teal Swan

Another Awesome Talk by Infinite Waters

Evening Meditation

Peace, Love & Namaste Em

Day Seventy-Two: I Pick Purple! Trashing Gender Roles by Balancing the Divine Masculine & Feminine Within


Just a side-note before I start: Everyday so may titles run through my brain

and I cannot usually purge one so as you can see my titles are epic-ally long!

I was driving home from the city this afternoon and it was finally warm enough

to crank open my windows and let the fresh air in. While driving my sporty little

red Mazda, shifting gears and taking names I turned my radio dial onto a heavy

rock station. I slipped on my rockin’ roll shades and steered the car with one

arm outstretched as I blared Ozzy Osbourne as loud as my car sanctioned stereo

would go without sounding muffled. I was basking in my divine masculine and loving

the power of it. During the trip I pulled over-cracked the hood and poured windsheild

washer fluid-full stream no funnel needed- ready to pounce on any man that tried to

“assist” this feminine looking woman. I felt the power of embracing my inner masculine

energy as I tore all of the seats, flooring and cabinetry out of my 1973 VW Van and

restored it all by myself; and I get that same rush when I sing a Led Zeppelin song with

the guys I jam with.

Women have power and strength-we love to embrace the gritty and raw side of life.

Men have sensitivities and grace and love to soften and embrace the gentle beauty of life.

Our society is becoming more open and receptive to the idea that androgynous thinking-

by that I mean embracing both the masculine and feminine sides of ourselves-will allow

us to achieve more balance and happiness.

The times where little girls were odd if they rocked a short haircut and wore slacks

are improving in Western countries and others as well-though we still have a long

way to go.

Similarly the times where boys were restricted from taking on careers that are

in the nurturing fields is lessening. The more evolved human beings see these

traits as empowering rather than odd and that is progress.

Restrictive thought patterns in general seem to be at least

argued against rather than accepted and conformed to-that too is progress.

If someone chooses to judge anyone that walks outside the lines are they not

the one we should feel sorry for? How terrible would it be to live a life full of

hatred and judgement?

My point is that as human beings we are more balanced when we allow the

gender roles to fall to the wayside and just embrace our ability to just live

and be-be who we chose-wear what we chose-spend our time doing what

we chose whether it is “pink”, “blue” or “purple”.


Morning Meditation for Balancing the Masculine and Feminine


Journal Entry: Think of a time when you were doing something that

allowed you to break through the gender role assigned to you at birth.

How did you feel? Was it uncomfortable-or was it empowering and

liberating. What rules where you brought up making to feel plunged

you deeper into the gender role of assignment? What could you do today,

tomorrow and the next day to rebel against your gender role? Now go

do it! What are you waiting for?


Videos that Explore the Topic Further

Morning Yoga Session for Couples

Evening Meditation


Peace, Love & Namaste-Em

Day Seventy-One: Navigating Manhood in A Confusing World-Balancing & Awakening the Divine Masculine


Yesterday we spoke about how women are confused in our society

and about what feminine concepts we can embrace whilst maintaining

our strength and personal power.

After being a teacher, counselor, child care worker and mother for

decades I have learned that boys and men are just as confused about

how much of their masculinity they are allowed to embrace without

looking scary or too hard. They are expected to be sensitive to other

fellow human beings (namely the women in their lives) all the

while maintaining a strong and impenetrable focused manly facade.

Women want their men to be strong and husky but they conversely

want their men to ravage them passionately.

Men are questioned and even ridiculed for assuming typically female

roles (nursing, caregiving, stay at home dad…) so they too are being

marginalized by our society and their dreams-no matter how honorable

can also be put under a microscope.

This causes a wildfire effect of a lack of pursuing their true selves and

embracing the roles they feel they are here to fill.

If a man is unbalanced he can end up being fanatical

and too aggressive-abusive and controlling. What has happened to these

men-to their core-where did things go wrong? Are they too subconsciously

affected by our societies image of what men are supposed to be? Are they

too detached from themselves too find their way back to their true essence?

The way a boy is raised can have so much to do with how much he is able

to express himself. I have put this into practice with my son. I have always

encouraged him to maintain his innate sensitive personality and have never

made him feel shame for showing his emotions.

There is so much beauty in the divine masculine and if men were encouraged

free to explore the best parts of masculinity the world would be a much more

welcome, balanced and harmonious place to live.


Morning Meditation:

TED Talk-The Demise of Men-Philip Zimbardo


Journal Entry: What messages have you been given throughout your

life that you feel have detached you from your true essence? Who 

had the most influence in your life when it came to embracing your

core self? Where your feminine qualities stifled or stripped away?

Do you feel balanced as a male in today’s society? Think of a time

when you felt very balanced as a man-what was your situation?

How can you move in the direction of that way of being now?


Yoga Flow Especially for Men


Videos that Enhance and Pu-ruse the Topic of Masculinity


Evening Meditation

Day Sixty-Seven: “Don’t Give Yourself Away”: The Spiritual Side of Sex & Intimacy


Depending on what stage of your life you are in; where you are from;

what culture you are immersed in sex is an issue that stares you in the

eyes on a fairly regular basis. So let’s talk openly and frankly without

beating around the bush (excuse the pun).

Whether you are single or married there needs to be a spark to

ignite the flame of intimacy; if there is no spark you may as well

be a robot carrying out the sequence of events programmed in

your mainframe computer.

The singles of the world are faced with the excitement and spark of

a new relationship but have the latent fears that come with not knowing

what the other person likes in the bedroom-until that barrier is crossed

there is no telling if the chemistry that exists will start a fire.

One thing for sure is that the movies give a slightly skewed view of what

a first sexual experience is like for a fresh couple-so ladies and gentleman;

if your first sexual moment with one another is sloppy and confusing don’t

berate yourself too much-it takes a long time to develop a synchronistic

intimate connection with someone.

Yesterday we spoke of the importance of a vibrational match-I feel this

is most important when it comes to sex and intimacy.

Now it’s time to talk about the married couples-intimacy can go a few different

ways when you’ve been together for several years. You can become out of

sync with one another and all of a sudden detach sexually-having lots of headaches,

going months without coping a feel and being “too tired” to make love after the

may responsibilities you have.

If your relationship is sexually void; is there another underlying issue that has

yet to be revealed? People can be asexual (meaning the desire for sex isn’t there),

but we all need to express our sexual selves.

If one partner is not getting what they need from a sexual interlude that

can be a huge problem. Most of the women that have confided in me about

not having sex for years have partners that are selfish in the bedroom-

leaving their wives devoid of pleasure. A one sided ordeal is very

counter-productive-don’t give it away.

I recently watched a comedy act and she talked about how women take longer

to reach orgasm-men can have one fairly quickly for the most part-but for

women it is a complex puzzle that needs to be solved with patience and care.

What about fantasies; if we’re married and we have fantasies about someone else

(famous or otherwise) why do we punish ourselves with overwhelming guilt?

Being with one person for the rest of our lives is lovely and wonderful but

we need to ensure that we maintain our spark for one another-fantasies

can help this.

Sex and intimacy are beautiful and integral to making us feel alive.

Sex can and should be a spiritual experience where both partners are mutually

respected and both partners are taken on a sensual journey into the abyss

of love-flying high on the intensity of loving someone else so completely.

If there are blockages and you are forcing yourself to be intimate for your

partner I think you are doing yourself and your partner a dis-service-one

of these decisions could cause resentment and bitterness and alter the

way you feel about your partner forever.

Never Give Yourself Away! Sex is something to be respected, adored,

revered…It is a sacred and spiritual source that connects us to one another.

One violation can change the course of our sexual future-so treat each other

with respect, honor one another.

Your body is your temple so make sure that if anyone wants to

come inside they need to clean their feet and worship you.


Morning Meditation:


Journal Entry: Examine how healthy your sexual life is. Are you blocked?

Are you fulfilled and honest with your partner? Does your vibrational

resonance match? Are there things you are not communicating to your

partner that you feel would help you and your partner improve in any

area of your sexual life? Write a letter to your partner about this and

give or don’t give it to them. If you are single-examine what you need

from a partner and what your comfort level is when it comes to sex.


Some Cool Talks about Sex and Spirituality:


Kundalini Yoga Session-To Connect with your Sensual Self


Evening Meditation:

Peace, Love & Namaste Em