Depending on what stage of your life you are in; where you are from;
what culture you are immersed in sex is an issue that stares you in the
eyes on a fairly regular basis. So let’s talk openly and frankly without
beating around the bush (excuse the pun).
Whether you are single or married there needs to be a spark to
ignite the flame of intimacy; if there is no spark you may as well
be a robot carrying out the sequence of events programmed in
your mainframe computer.
The singles of the world are faced with the excitement and spark of
a new relationship but have the latent fears that come with not knowing
what the other person likes in the bedroom-until that barrier is crossed
there is no telling if the chemistry that exists will start a fire.
One thing for sure is that the movies give a slightly skewed view of what
a first sexual experience is like for a fresh couple-so ladies and gentleman;
if your first sexual moment with one another is sloppy and confusing don’t
berate yourself too much-it takes a long time to develop a synchronistic
intimate connection with someone.
Yesterday we spoke of the importance of a vibrational match-I feel this
is most important when it comes to sex and intimacy.
Now it’s time to talk about the married couples-intimacy can go a few different
ways when you’ve been together for several years. You can become out of
sync with one another and all of a sudden detach sexually-having lots of headaches,
going months without coping a feel and being “too tired” to make love after the
may responsibilities you have.
If your relationship is sexually void; is there another underlying issue that has
yet to be revealed? People can be asexual (meaning the desire for sex isn’t there),
but we all need to express our sexual selves.
If one partner is not getting what they need from a sexual interlude that
can be a huge problem. Most of the women that have confided in me about
not having sex for years have partners that are selfish in the bedroom-
leaving their wives devoid of pleasure. A one sided ordeal is very
counter-productive-don’t give it away.
I recently watched a comedy act and she talked about how women take longer
to reach orgasm-men can have one fairly quickly for the most part-but for
women it is a complex puzzle that needs to be solved with patience and care.
What about fantasies; if we’re married and we have fantasies about someone else
(famous or otherwise) why do we punish ourselves with overwhelming guilt?
Being with one person for the rest of our lives is lovely and wonderful but
we need to ensure that we maintain our spark for one another-fantasies
can help this.
Sex and intimacy are beautiful and integral to making us feel alive.
Sex can and should be a spiritual experience where both partners are mutually
respected and both partners are taken on a sensual journey into the abyss
of love-flying high on the intensity of loving someone else so completely.
If there are blockages and you are forcing yourself to be intimate for your
partner I think you are doing yourself and your partner a dis-service-one
of these decisions could cause resentment and bitterness and alter the
way you feel about your partner forever.
Never Give Yourself Away! Sex is something to be respected, adored,
revered…It is a sacred and spiritual source that connects us to one another.
One violation can change the course of our sexual future-so treat each other
with respect, honor one another.
Your body is your temple so make sure that if anyone wants to
come inside they need to clean their feet and worship you.
Journal Entry: Examine how healthy your sexual life is. Are you blocked?
Are you fulfilled and honest with your partner? Does your vibrational
resonance match? Are there things you are not communicating to your
partner that you feel would help you and your partner improve in any
area of your sexual life? Write a letter to your partner about this and
give or don’t give it to them. If you are single-examine what you need
from a partner and what your comfort level is when it comes to sex.
Some Cool Talks about Sex and Spirituality:
Kundalini Yoga Session-To Connect with your Sensual Self
Peace, Love & Namaste Em