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Day Seventy-Four: Soul Connections Series Lesson One: Soul Mates


Over the next few days we are going to go over some of the different

“spiritual/soul connections” that have been explored over time. I will

discuss one each day over the next three days. The three most prevalent

soul connections are: soul mates, twin souls and twin flames.

There are two types of people in the world today; the people that

truly believe, from the bottom of their very hearts that there is

one person out there that will be their #1, the yin to their yang,

the person that will complete them and love them unconditionally

just the way they are.

Can believing in a soul mate make life more exciting and thrilling or

can it lead to a world of hurt if we never find that “one” and spend

our lives on an endless search for someone more?

Conversely if we only relate to our possible lovers with an air of

superficiality then the magic has been extinguished before it can

begin. We are living in a constant state of numbness. Is that

really living?

How do we navigate the feelings we have when we meet a person

that we deeply connect to? Are the feelings deep love, lust,

like, nurturing…How do we know?

Fear has a tendency to stifle many of our feelings and twist them

into a salty pretzel of confusion and denial-resulting in us stumbling

through life with a blindfold on and no love direction.

The pure excitement of navigating a new relationship can leave

some craving that initial feeling and lead to a life of constant

one night stands or quickie relationships.

A relationship that makes us feel alive and truly ourselves is what

we all strive to find in our lifetime-but in order to find that it

seems we must first love ourselves unconditionally so we are not

always reaching out for someone else to define us and fill the voids

that we have within.

The first soul connection lesson is about soul mates:

Throughout history philosophers like Plato and Edgar Cayce

have used the term soul mates to tell stories that describe

and explain that feeling of deep connection that traditionally

a man and woman feel to one another.

The term soul mates has now evolved to break through gender

roles-one can deeply love anyone else regardless of gender or sexual




A soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity.[1] This may involve similarity, love, romance,friendship, intimacy, sexuality, sexual activity, spirituality, or compatibility and trust.[2]


Here is a list taken from The Huffington Post: The 10 Elements of a Soul Mate

The 10 Elements of a Soulmate:

1. It’s something inside. Describing how a soulmate makes you feel is difficult. It’s a tenacious, profound and lingering emotion which no words can encompass.

2. Flashbacks. If your partner is your soulmate, chances are he or she has been present in your past lives. Soulmates often choose to come back together during the same lifetime and scope each other out in the big world. You might suddenly and briefly experience flashbacks of your soulmate. You might even feel an odd sense of déjà vu, as if the moment in time has already taken place, perhaps a long time ago, perhaps in a different setting.

3. You just get each other. Ever met two people who finsh each other’s sentences? Some people call that spending too much time together, but I call it a soulmate connection. You might experience this with your best friend or your mother, but it is the telltale sign of a soulmate when you experience it with your partner.

4. You fall in love with his (or her) flaws. No relationship is perfect, and even soulmate relationships will experience ups and downs. Still, that bond will be much harder to break. Soulmates have an easier time of accepting, even learning to love, each other’s imperfections. Your relationship is more likely to be a soulmate match if you both love each other exactly as you each are, accepting both the great and awful tendencies we all have.

5. It’s intense. A soulmate relationship may be more intense than normal relationships, in both good and sometimes bad ways. The most important thing is that, even during negative episodes, you’re focused on resolving the problem and can see beyond the bad moment.

6. You two against the world. Soulmates often see their relationship as “us against the world.” They feel so linked together that they’re ready and willing to take on any feat of life, so long as they have their soulmate by their side. Soulmate relationships are founded on compromise and unity above all else.

7. You’re mentally inseparable. Soulmates often have a mental connection similar to twins. They might pick up the phone to call each other at the exact same time. Though life may keep you apart at times, your minds will always be in tune if you are soulmates.

8. You feel secure and protected. Regardless of the gender of your partner, he or she should always make you feel secure and protected. This means that if you’re a man, yes, your woman should make you feel protected, too! Your soulmate will make you feel like you have a guardian angel by your side. A person who plays on your insecurities, whether consciously or subconsciously, is not your soulmate.

9. You can’t imagine your life without him (or her). A soulmate is not someone you can walk away from that easily. It is someone you can’t imagine being without, a person you believe is worth sticking with and fighting for.

10. You look each other in the eye. Soulmates have a tendency to look into each other’s eyes when speaking more often than ordinary couples. It comes naturally from the deep-seated connection between them. Looking a person in the eye when speaking denotes a high level of comfort and confidence.

Whether you’re designed by the universe to be soulmates or two loving people who have settled for each other’s strengths and weaknesses, the decision is yours. The beauty of free will is that you can remain in or change any relationship as you see fit. To be with your soulmate is one of the precious treasures of life. And if you feel you’ve found your heart’s other half, I wish you endless days of joy and laughter, and countless nights of deep embrace, unraveling the mysteries of the universe one by one.

To love,

Dr. Carmen Harra

Morning Meditation


Journal Entry: Do you believe in soul mates? Have you ever had such a deep spiritual

or soul connection with someone that you can’t deny there is something more to

it then the superficial? How did you feel? What was your perception of what a

soul mate was before learning more? What is your perception now?

Another Awesome Talk by Teal Swan

Another Awesome Talk by Infinite Waters

Evening Meditation

Peace, Love & Namaste Em

Day Seventy-Two: I Pick Purple! Trashing Gender Roles by Balancing the Divine Masculine & Feminine Within


Just a side-note before I start: Everyday so may titles run through my brain

and I cannot usually purge one so as you can see my titles are epic-ally long!

I was driving home from the city this afternoon and it was finally warm enough

to crank open my windows and let the fresh air in. While driving my sporty little

red Mazda, shifting gears and taking names I turned my radio dial onto a heavy

rock station. I slipped on my rockin’ roll shades and steered the car with one

arm outstretched as I blared Ozzy Osbourne as loud as my car sanctioned stereo

would go without sounding muffled. I was basking in my divine masculine and loving

the power of it. During the trip I pulled over-cracked the hood and poured windsheild

washer fluid-full stream no funnel needed- ready to pounce on any man that tried to

“assist” this feminine looking woman. I felt the power of embracing my inner masculine

energy as I tore all of the seats, flooring and cabinetry out of my 1973 VW Van and

restored it all by myself; and I get that same rush when I sing a Led Zeppelin song with

the guys I jam with.

Women have power and strength-we love to embrace the gritty and raw side of life.

Men have sensitivities and grace and love to soften and embrace the gentle beauty of life.

Our society is becoming more open and receptive to the idea that androgynous thinking-

by that I mean embracing both the masculine and feminine sides of ourselves-will allow

us to achieve more balance and happiness.

The times where little girls were odd if they rocked a short haircut and wore slacks

are improving in Western countries and others as well-though we still have a long

way to go.

Similarly the times where boys were restricted from taking on careers that are

in the nurturing fields is lessening. The more evolved human beings see these

traits as empowering rather than odd and that is progress.

Restrictive thought patterns in general seem to be at least

argued against rather than accepted and conformed to-that too is progress.

If someone chooses to judge anyone that walks outside the lines are they not

the one we should feel sorry for? How terrible would it be to live a life full of

hatred and judgement?

My point is that as human beings we are more balanced when we allow the

gender roles to fall to the wayside and just embrace our ability to just live

and be-be who we chose-wear what we chose-spend our time doing what

we chose whether it is “pink”, “blue” or “purple”.


Morning Meditation for Balancing the Masculine and Feminine


Journal Entry: Think of a time when you were doing something that

allowed you to break through the gender role assigned to you at birth.

How did you feel? Was it uncomfortable-or was it empowering and

liberating. What rules where you brought up making to feel plunged

you deeper into the gender role of assignment? What could you do today,

tomorrow and the next day to rebel against your gender role? Now go

do it! What are you waiting for?


Videos that Explore the Topic Further

Morning Yoga Session for Couples

Evening Meditation


Peace, Love & Namaste-Em

Day Fifty-Seven: “Water is Life”:The Magical Power of Hydration


When I was working twelve hour days and trying to scrape together some excess energy

to also care for my young family; nurture friendships; clean and organize my home…Drinking

definitely fell to the wayside. Drinking the entire contents of my water bottle in a day was

a rare and pitiful attempt at trying to remember to stay hydrated. Another blatant sign that

my ability to conduct a self care ritual was pathetic at best.

Now, as I heal I recognize when I am starting to feel dehydrated and I go out of my way to

stop, fill and drink a nice big glass of water with a slice of lemon.

My friend Erin and I did a casual run to Starbucks the other day and I was feeling pretty

parched-she suggested a cool lime refresher and said how hydrated she felt when she

drank them. I gave it a try and I sipped up the liquid soul fluid-as I sipped the minty,

fluid with a hint of lime I felt like a wave of energy was surging through my body.

Erin’s suggestion would ignite a new self care ritual-making a pitcher of cool lime

refresher that I would make ahead and drink throughout the day until the pitcher

ran dry. This insurance would allow me to gauge the amount of fluid I took in

during the day-plus; I would get that body burst that the cool lime minty delight

would promise.

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Here is my recipe for homemade lime mint refresher-it is pretty darn close and slightly

more organic then the Starbucks version:

What you’ll need-several limes-(you can add lemons/mandarin too) fresh mint leaves

two tablespoons of cane sugar, water of course.

Here’s how you do it!

Boil a full teapot of water-pour in a heat resistant jug-stir in the sugar;

place jug in the fridge to cool completely (3 hours). Add the juice of 3 limes

(or any combination of your citrus), stir in 3 large mint sprigs-smash them

with a potato smasher to release the mint. Now it’s ready to drink-the longer

it sits in the fridge the stronger the flavor-Strain when you drink!!! Enjoy!


Morning Meditation:

s140203 Drinking more water and my blue tea cup

Journal Entry: Try and think about how you feel when you are dehydrated.

What do you feel like when you are lacking hydration? When you take a drink

what do you notice happens to you? This week make a real effort to drink at

least the full pitcher of water each day and then reflect on the changes you

see. (P.S. Drinking fluids also helps speed the metabolism!)


Healthy Body Bollywood Workout!

Evening Mediation


Peace, Love & Namaste-Stay Hydrated Em

Day Fifty-Six: “You Can Overcome it!”-A Spiritual Guide to Healing Substance Abuse

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Here is the next piece in our addiction recovery series. When we are suffering

with an addiction to substance abuse-the knowledge that this substance controls

us is the sign that it is harming us rather than it being a harmless and

moderated social usage. Similarly to an addiction to a certain type of food it

can disable us and pull us apart from our true selves.

I know when I am not doing well or if I have an unbelievable amount of

stress because that 1/2 a glass of red wine becomes three and I stumble

and mumble my way up to bed that night with a feeling that I am dirty.

Some people feel that if they let the substance entirely go the goal of

releasing it completely is too hard to bear-never having their crutch or

little best friend-who got them through thick and thin-ever again! It can

seem daunting and unattainable.


When I quit smoking I knew the only option was to completely let those

nasty sticks go-if they were kept within reach I would have followed my

previous patterns of just starting back up-full bore once a fabricated

or real reason for me to increase my habit materialized to me.

Some people though can regulate and continue a relationship with

their substance-and they are able to moderate it successfully. Each

of us knows at our core what effects us negatively and how it effects


I think not being so hard on ourselves when we fall from grace is very

important-we all stumble and we all end up regaining the strength

to pick ourselves back up.


Love yourself and care for your soul-really consider that crutch and

if there is any other way you can soothe your heartbreak-is there a

friend you can call? A warm soothing lavender bath you can run?

An oasis in nature you can immerse yourself in? A craft you can express

your raw emotion through?


Noticing what triggers you to go for your addiction is also an important

skill to hone-if you are conscious as to how you are affected before you

reach for the crutch-you may be able to change the course of your choice.


Much like all other addictions-you have the power to overcome

and release yourself from mental slavery!!! Believe in Yourself!!!


Morning Prayer for Addiction Recovery


Journal Entry: Explore whether there is any substances in your life that

you feel are controlling you. If so what causes the addiction to spike?

Remember a time that you were free of the chains of this addiction? What was 

different in your life at the time? How did you do it? How can you do more about it?

Make a list of things you can do rather than reach for that substance and make

copies that you can carry with you, place in your home/office/locker etc.

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Positive Affirmations for Recovery

My favorite inspirational speaker & wise guru-Infinite Waters-Youtube

Russell Brand Overcomes Addiction with Yoga

Kundalini Yoga for Addiction

Evening Meditation

Day Twenty: Creating A Spiritual Family Tree


The stress if life can push us into isolation; as discussed in my previous

entry about Parenting. Building positive ties in the community can

pull us out of our own personal vortex. An intense desire to believe in

something outside of ourselves can bond us to one another in a positive,

healing relationships. People in our lives play specific roles in our lives;

some move us closer to our true selves. We always seek to find others

that share our faith and belief systems. We are always trying to hang on

to things that make us feel closer to our inner spiritual selves. The idea

of creating a Spiritual Family Tree came to me when I was thinking of

topics to discuss. Throughout my research I have come to realize that

there are variations of The Spiritual Family Tree in faiths and cultures

throughout the world.


Creating your own Spiritual Family Tree will be a personal and 

self reflective process that will raise your awareness as to what

brings you closer to your core sense of being. 

For me trees have always symbolized strength, spirituality, connection,

growth…Even at the age of forty I still feel an intense connection to trees

and will climb or hug them at will. So I thought, what better symbol

to create a road map of positive living and connection for today’s

spiritual project.


Today we will focus on discovering the things, people and

beliefs that give your life meaning and make you unique.

Morning Meditation: Connecting with Your Root Chakra-Tree Meditation


Art Journal Activity: Creating Your Own Spiritual Family Tree:

1. Select and Print one of the Spiritual Family Tree Templates

one the attached PDF document. Or create your own original artwork.

Spiritual Family Tree Templates

2. Write in the names of all of the people, places, things, 

books, activities you feel connect you to your higher self.

3. Frame and place in a sacred location in your home.

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Physical Activity: Do the following Tree Yoga Poses with Adrienne

Walk amongst the trees in nature or even a lovely tree-lined street. Pay

attention to how connected you feel to them.

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Inspiring Video: Infinite Waters-Diving Deep-Drawing Life:

Spirit Tree

Relaxation Music-Birds, Trees and the Forest:

(As I play this, my birds are calling back to the birds singing in the video)

Evening Meditation:

Enjoy Creating Your Spiritual Family Tree

Much Love, Peace & Namaste


Day Eleven: Embracing Tenderness in a Competitive, High Stress World


When I was a child I cried all the time; when I got hurt, when a loved one or

stranger was in pain…When I ask people that knew me as a child what I was

like the answer is always the same; “you were VERY sensitive, you cried all

the time.” I remember watching the filmstrip (yes I am that old) “The Incredible

Journey” at school and crying so hard I was kicked out of the classroom

because I was disturbing the other students. I went to see “Benji” in a

theatre and stood on my chair screaming for someone to help Benji when

he was lost in a shopping mall. I guess that is a clue as to why I have always

had an undeniable urge to help others, an itch I can’t avoid scratching, my

entire life. My tenderness and love for others has been a truly wonderful gift

and a horribly painful curse. Whenever I inevitably get hurt by someone my

husband always says, “It is because you are too nice, you need to be a bitch,

then you would not keep getting hurt.” But how, I ask you, can you be a bitch

if tenderness is the personality trait that runs most thickly through your veins.

I can’t change who I am, but in order to survive in the world outside my

safe little home, I need to learn to not let my tenderness be my Achilles heel.

Can tender people really win the race?

Today’s focus is retaining your integrity as a person after being

jaded by the challenges in life.

When you wake up this morning think about the person you are

today. Have you lost a part of yourself to survive in this fast paced,

competitive world? If so, how can you get that special part of yourself



Morning Meditation: “I Start My Day with Love” Robyn Nola



Musical Inspiration to Start Your Day: “Cheerful Songs

to Start Your Day With-Adrina Larisa Sufana-Youtube


Journal Entry: (From: Create Right Now-By Mari)



“What would I be accomplishing if I weren’t so busy standing in my own way, or so busy listening to my inner critics or so busy being overwhelmed by my fears?”

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Inspired Listening: “How to Be Emotionally and Mentally Strong”-

Infinite Waters (Diving Deep). Here he offers tips to remain kind and

vulnerable while being emotionally and mentally strong.


Inspired Literature: Here is a link to a very incredible website

that highlights the projects of people that live inspired, vulnerable

lives. It is called the Vulnerability Project.


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Art Project: Tenderness Collage:

Collect, Print and Cut Out images of what you relate to your

tenderness. Modge Podge to a canvas and then paint or use sticker/

scrapbook letters to write words you relate to kindness/tenderness.


30 Minutes of Physical Activity: Go for a walk in the forest

or in a natural environment and pay attention to the most

delicate of nature’s creatures. Really connect with them.


Evening Meditation: Louise Hay-Youtube-Emily Stone Music


Much Love, Peace and Namaste