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Day Thirty-Two: The Upside of Depression-Meloncholy As Spiritual Awakening

My darkest hours typically followed a traumatic or heartbreaking

incident that occurred in my life; a death, a loss of job or relationship,

high amounts of stress…But there were some times where the darkness

threw it’s suffocating cloak over my head for no tangible reason. My

life was seemingly smooth and the darkness would invade the confines

of my mind leaving me confused and trying not to submit to the

detrimental thoughts that consumed me. I could not understand why

I was so unhappy when there was nothing I could see in my path that

was a blockage. Maybe my internal soul sensed it and whispered unconsciously

for me to pay attention and analyze what I was receiving from my surroundings.

Fortunately I always have faith that the cloak of darkness will lead me

to a more enlightened and brighter path. I finally searched and found others

that share this philosophy (see the speakers below). In order to embrace

a new and more well suited path, we must dredge through the life

threatening swamp full of thorns and quicksand. Linda Miller said it best

in her TED Talk (below) about how there are two sides to the door

of depression and one of them is a Spiritual Awakening. Like life’s

Ying and Yang, I have always believed that unless one experiences

pure pain and darkness one cannot appreciate ecstasy and

intense unadulterated joy. Could then, depressions purpose be

to slow us down so that we can see the intricacies of what led us down

the changing path more clearly? Could it be a time for us to get back

or transform into our true self? Could it be an awakening to allow

us to embrace and appreciate the happiness unconditionally and without

blockages when we emerge from our trans-formative cocoon?

The days I believe that this feeling will lead me in the right direction

I can move forward, the days I can’t see the possibilities I feel consumed

by sadness and despair. So even if the idea that I am experiencing a

spiritual awakening is a placebo ; it assists me in getting through this

time in my life with a more hopeful and anticipatory attitude.

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Today’s focus is the realization that life is meaningful and

so are the steps along our journey. We need to trust and embrace

them with the knowledge that the universe will take care of us.

Morning Meditation-Kundalini Awakening

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Journal Entry; Write about a traumatic or depressing time in 

your life; what led you there? Did you come out the other side 

more enlightened? What changes occurred as a result?

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Two Sides of One Door: Lisa Miller

Psychosis or Spiritual Awakening

Depression is a Disease of Civilization

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Evening Meditation-A Spiritual Treasure Chest

Much Love, Peace & Namaste

Em

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Day Eighteen: The Perfect Balance: An Interview about Parenting

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Striving to be the picture perfect parent is something all parents go through.

We do our best and hope that our children have their needs met and more.

When you have your first baby everyone wants to give you advice; some you take

and some you don’t. Reading parenting books did provide me some insights but

the most effective guide was within me. It has always been my intuition. Let’s

be realistic, we all know when we are the model of ideal parents; fresh baked

apple pie wafting through a spotless and pristine home, while the children sit

reading their books with smiles and a warm glass of homemade cocoa placed

in front of them. We also know when the stress and sacrifice of parenting,

and the mountain of responsibilities turn us into a shell of a parent, walking

around with a robotic tick. Or worse yet, we take our frustrations out on our

families and then need to beg for forgiveness and teach our children that

we are simply human and can’t live up to perfection.

Can and should perfection be the goal in parenting? Or do our

children need to see us in all states, good or bad, so they feel that they

too can rise and fall?

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As I was sitting in my friend, neighbor and fellow mother’s hot tub, having

some girl time, we started to talk about achieving balance as a parent. She has

regular gatherings for all of her girlfriends-which are always a fabulous way to

connect us and give us a vehicle to gather and be a sisterhood of women. I know

we all appreciate her time and effort to make these events happen. I

had always been inspired by her ability to maintain balance and a sense

of well-being as a parent and Day Home Business Owner. I asked her if

she would be my first interview for today’s blog about Parenting.

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The Perfect Balance: An Interview with Erin about Parenting 

Here is the script:

Emily: Do you feel you achieve balance as a parent? 

Erin: Yes. 

Emily: How?

Erin: My husband and I are equal partners; employment, housework, cooking

caring for the kids-all of it. We also both have hobbies that we pursue outside

the home so there is no jealousy or guilt if one of us does something alone. There

is an equal balance for both of us.

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Emily: How important are your friendships in keeping you balanced?

Erin: Having a network of friends allows more opportunity to balance my

life; I have a diverse friendship group. Each woman provides me with a different

type of relationship. Each one plays an important role in my life.

Emily: Is it difficult to work at home with 7 or more children all day?

Erin: I never feel overwhelmed with it because I always have some time

with friends, an event, a party, a girl’s night to plan or look forward to. 

The knowledge of this keeps me going and it keeps me out of my funk.

Emily: What would your life look like without this circle of friends?

Erin: I would feel depressed, trapped…In the past I didn’t have a network

of friends and I was on anti-depressants. I was a ‘young mother who never

went out’. When I first moved to this town I was uncomfortable with my

body, this made me self conscious and I retreated within myself, afraid to 

approach other moms. Some of the moms in this town seemed unusually pulled 

together.  I definitely felt like I could’t approach. 

Emily: When did things change for you? What was the turning point?

Erin: I lost weight and had a total transformation; then I began my

“Friend Mission”. My new found confidence gave me the courage to

seek out friendships. Here’s how it went; I would see her across the

crowded playground and say to myself “she’s gonna be a friend.”

It worked about 50% of the time. 

Emily: What made these women approachable?

Erin: Part of it was that I changed. I even went off the anti-depressants

successfully. Here is the Approachable Friend Profile: 

1. A little stressed

2. Clothing average, nothing too swanky

3. Hair a bit disheveled

4. Muted make-up

5. A great sense of humor

6. No censor.

As a first impression, these qualities made me feel more comfortable, 

like I didn’t have to be afraid I was going to be judged.

Emily: Do you take the time for self care?

Erin: I didn’t before the transformation but now I definitely do.

Going and doing things I love and being with friends are part of

that self care. Caring for myself caused a boost in my confidence and

then I was more approachable as well. I became a happier person.

Emily: How do you know when ‘the funk’ is coming on?

Erin: I feel tense, snappy, I feel a black cloud over my head, 

my eyes are beginning to glaze over, I’m an unresponsive ball of

nothingness on the couch-if it is severe-with a glass of wine or a 

half eaten chocolate bar and unintentional dreadlocks.

Some tidbits of our conversation after that:

All parents have stress, sacrifice, issues, fears…It is a universal

feeling. When you put on a mask and conceal the struggles you

may become more isolated and detached-then you become unapproachable

to others. They are afraid to be judged or that they can’t live up to your

ideals of perfection.

Even the seemingly ‘perfect mom’ has the strong desire to reveal

her true self.

As parents we need to band together and support one another.

This helps us achieve the balance we all desire. It is also

very healthy for our children to see us happy and balanced so they too

can achieve it for themselves. Being a martyr can harm not only

ourselves, but can damage our children presently and down the line.

Children have a stronger intuition and are closer to our source than

we are so they sense when we are out of balance.

Parents must stop judging one another and unite, it can be challenging

to balance such a crucial role, but if you do your best at least 80% of the

time, you’re doing well.

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A Huge Heartfelt Thank You to Erin:

You are an incredible friend, my life is better for knowing you.

Peace, Love & Namaste

Emily

 

Day Fifteen: Climbing out of the Abyss: Dealing with a Depressed Soul

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They say “What Goes Up, Must Come Down.” As it stands I am living proof

of this, as are many of my fellow human beings. I think we all have moments

that could qualify within the depressive range.

But, the thing we all strive for, all of us, universally, is Happiness.

That sometimes tangible emotion that we wish we could bottle up

and save to use again and again at will.

What if we were to embrace this darkness and use it as a vehicle for

evolution within ourselves.

Approaching my depression this time, the symptoms looked

familiar and they tried to pull me into their vortex. They still try, but I

have put on my armor and I am attacking them at the entrance to my

fragile soul. Could depression be our souls way of communicating that

we need to simplify, step back and cocoon ourselves in safety for awhile?

Since going on leave I have realized that I need to be in solitude in order

to recover myself. I am starting to see moments of brightness shine

through the dark gaps in my mind. I am able to find moments where

I truly connect with my family after so many years of just shutting

down and being an empty shell when I get home at the end of the day.

My body is softening, rather than seizing violently all day long. My soul

is receiving key messages that lay hidden from awareness for so long.

This time, I have the insight to realize I am in complete

control of my thoughts and how I deal with them.

In order to conquer depression I feel we need to pull from all sorts

of resources and offerings. Medication can be key but it cannot be

the solitary band-aid solution. It must be mixed with more holistic

therapies, self-care, excellent nourishment of the trifecta

(body, mind & soul), support from loved ones and a re-connection

to nature and spirit. If you know someone is depressed please

understand that telling them that “you’re lazy, why don’t you just

pull yourself out of it?, “aren’t the meds. working?” are detrimental

comments that just reinforce the individuals already self deprecating

sense of self worth. These lost souls need love, support , hope and

optimism as much as a cancer patient needs chemotherapy. Their

illness is as life threatening and as serious so please consider how

you make them feel.

“Only from extreme darkness can brilliant light emerge.”-E.Lutze

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Our focus today will be on how to overcome depression at a spiritual level.

 

When you wake up this morning think of as many things as you can that

provide you with hope and light.

 

Morning Meditation:

 

Today’s journal entry is based on the philosophy behind Solution

Focused Therapy. This is a therapeutic technique that allows the

client to visualize a time in their life when they could achieve the

selected emotional state. They discover how they achieved it and

use those same techniques to achieve it once again.

 

Journal Entry: Write about what you think led to your feelings of

unease and depression. Are you able to let go of that situation,

person or the things that led you there? When was the last time

you felt happy? What was different then? What is the answer to

your miracle question?

Below is a video that outlines the main “miracle question” clients

answer in that form of therapy.

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Another video by Infinite Waters (Diving Deep): 10 Reasons 

Your Depressed.

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Music that makes you happy! Today we will combine physical activity with

this playlist. Dance, however you would like to some of these songs. If you are

not alone, dance with a loved one.

 

Inspired Reading:dalai happiness

Inspired Viewing and Listening: The Dalai Lama speaks about “The Art of Happiness”

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ART THERAPY: http://www.cathymalchiodi.com/2012/11/15/the-six-degrees-of-positivity-art-therapy-happiness-project/

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Quick Meditation: A Pick Me Up Meditation to Guide You Through the Dark.

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Evening Meditation:

Peace, Love, Happiness & Namaste

Em