Yesterday we spoke about how women are confused in our society
and about what feminine concepts we can embrace whilst maintaining
our strength and personal power.
After being a teacher, counselor, child care worker and mother for
decades I have learned that boys and men are just as confused about
how much of their masculinity they are allowed to embrace without
looking scary or too hard. They are expected to be sensitive to other
fellow human beings (namely the women in their lives) all the
while maintaining a strong and impenetrable focused manly facade.
Women want their men to be strong and husky but they conversely
want their men to ravage them passionately.
Men are questioned and even ridiculed for assuming typically female
roles (nursing, caregiving, stay at home dad…) so they too are being
marginalized by our society and their dreams-no matter how honorable
can also be put under a microscope.
This causes a wildfire effect of a lack of pursuing their true selves and
embracing the roles they feel they are here to fill.
If a man is unbalanced he can end up being fanatical
and too aggressive-abusive and controlling. What has happened to these
men-to their core-where did things go wrong? Are they too subconsciously
affected by our societies image of what men are supposed to be? Are they
too detached from themselves too find their way back to their true essence?
The way a boy is raised can have so much to do with how much he is able
to express himself. I have put this into practice with my son. I have always
encouraged him to maintain his innate sensitive personality and have never
made him feel shame for showing his emotions.
There is so much beauty in the divine masculine and if men were encouraged
free to explore the best parts of masculinity the world would be a much more
welcome, balanced and harmonious place to live.
Morning Meditation:
TED Talk-The Demise of Men-Philip Zimbardo
Journal Entry: What messages have you been given throughout your
life that you feel have detached you from your true essence? Who
had the most influence in your life when it came to embracing your
core self? Where your feminine qualities stifled or stripped away?
Do you feel balanced as a male in today’s society? Think of a time
when you felt very balanced as a man-what was your situation?
How can you move in the direction of that way of being now?
Yoga Flow Especially for Men
Videos that Enhance and Pu-ruse the Topic of Masculinity
Evening Meditation
90 Days to Spiritual Enlightenment 
Nice to see a woman (I assume) trying to help men find their inner masculinity. As much I appreciate Teal Swan and others, I do think we need to become aware of the power side of masculinity – a power that can be used to cause harm or to construct or physically help and protect “women and orphans” as they used to say in the French chivalry code.
Its no use encouraging the sensitive in your son – the whole of society, media etc is doing that. The powerful, leadership qualities, ability to master ones emotions and get that sail in despite the storm , the fear, the cold etc… a man has to be aware of and use his dark side – the Killer… and women are attracted to men who have this … im not talking about serial killers and bikers, but a more positive “killer” side – Vin diesel in babylon AD and the young nun…
So encourage him to sword fight, hunt, mountaineer, do activities with mature men only… the agressive has been systematically trampled on, leading to weak, insecure men who self harm with drugs or commit suicide. Or get mocked by their girlfriends …
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Hi Julian. I so appreciate your point of view and really agree that the masculine side of my son should be celebrated.
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