My mother was a fan of humility. She was very religious and in her spiritual
teachings and in life she was trained to be seen and not heard. Lessons
she stressed to me were centered on giving to others and making them
feel special while sacrificing your own needs.
Innately I have always been very uncomfortable when I am complimented.
It is as though my biggest fear is to seem egotistical or appearing to think
I am better than anyone else. My husband recently shared with me that
I actually downgrade myself in front of others too often. This is a tool I
have always used to be accessible to others so that they know I will not
The world has confused me; and maybe yourself as well-Buddhist teaching
and all of my spiritual teachings stress the value of maintaining ones ability
to remain humble and how this trait is revered and encouraged.
Admit it we all can’t stand the people who go around bragging about this
and that and how awesome they are. It also drives us crazy when people
around us keep one upping us-like you buy something and then they buy
the same thing but way nicer and more expensive; or multiple numbers
of the one that you got and then proceed to rub salt into your wounds.
Now the key to being a good person, someone who people can value;
is maintaining our value and appreciating compliments, but in a
way that is not aggressive or egotistical. Self deprecation is an extreme
form of humility-and it damages us. You can be humble, kind and loving
and still value your self worth. How can we do this? By assessing the
way we speak to others about ourselves.
Homework: Do something kind for someone today without them knowing.
Pay attention to how not receiving acknowledgement feels?
Morning Meditation: Humility in the Mountains
Journal Entry: When you are with someone do you feel like you need
to compete or prove something to them? How much of your time are
you living in an egotistical state? How much of your time are you living
in a humble state? How did you feel after doing your homework?
Humble Forbearance Yoga Routine