Monthly Archives: February 2015

Day Fifty-Three: The Plight of the Sensitive Souls-A Guidebook on Navigating this Chaotic World

Since childhood I have been overtly and keenly aware of my surroundings.


Any intense stimuli seemed to effect me dozens of times more extremely

than my fellow human beings. Now, people such as this have also been

labeled empaths, introverts and conversely, babies, dramatic, or silly.

Much of my life I have felt singled out or misunderstood; others would

say I was exaggerating my emotional reactions to certain things. All of

us have very specific and varied personalities and many moments I have

been embarrassed or ashamed of my intense emotions-of which I cannot

hide by the way. I wear my emotions like a beacon in the night; I can’t

deny the way I am feeling at any given moment.

Now the first time I was made aware of Highly Sensitive People-the

diagnosis (HSP), was my first appointment with a very effective psychologist.

After asking me a battery of questions in which all answers were yes,

and after each answer I felt a bit more relieved; she handed me this



I struggle with labels and I hesitate to label myself or others but when

this ‘personality type’ was revealed to me I finally felt like I understood

something more about who I was. Sometimes we need to have someone

to reveal the missing piece of the puzzle so we don’t remain lost in the

abyss of being misunderstood by not only ourselves but others as well.

I am over forty now and I still do not have a grasp on how to live in a

world that seems to be on steroids; but I know I need to learn to adjust

because hibernating in a cocoon does not serve me.

I am looking for the answers. Here is a list of great ideas that are logical

and easy to achieve and implement:



If you fit the bill as a HSP; there are so many positive attributes that we

need to embrace and remember. Please do not beat yourself up about this.

Here is a lovely article “It’s Good to be Sensitive”:



Morning Meditation: Bubble of Protection


Highly Sensitive-The Film

Highly Sensitive Person-Website-Very Informative


Highly Sensitive Souls-Self Test & Test for Children

Sixteen Habits of Highly Sensitive People-Huffington Post


Grounding Meditation for Highly Sensitive People

Evening Meditation for Highly Sensitive People:

Peace, Love & Namaste to my Fellow Sensitive Souls-Em

Day Fifty-Two: Love as a Drug-Using Love to Conquer Stress


When I am at the top of my game I am a true lover of life, people,

all that I do. I know I am scarred when I am not acting or living from

a place of love. This morning as I drove my kids to school I was listening

to a newscast on the radio about how love can be used to heal stress.

What a profound yet logical idea-and what a relief to know that it

is actually a phenomena that is being studied in the psychological

sciences arena.

When I am working from that place of pure love the universe puts

all of the experiences in the day in a beautiful and thoughtful line-

and nothing can block my positive line of intention.

Imagine the moments when you are waiting for a loved one at

the airport-someone you haven’t seen for a long time and how

the thought of them arriving can be the remedy for you to

get through the weeks until they arrive. That love surpassed

all medications-all therapies-it in and of itself was your therapy.

While you wait you see other people reuniting at the greeting point

and that soothes you.

These studies show that just by simply witnessing love we can

manage and release our stress.


Let’s think about some ways that we could use love as a weapon against

stress in our daily lives:

1. View images of people loving one another-animals-children etc.

2. Watch the video of a love song that moves you

3. Go to the arrivals section at the airport and get a massive dose

4. Find an inspiring video on the net and set it free virally-spread the love.

5. Commit a random act of kindness

6. Compliment 5 people

7. Go find someone to hug-make sure you ask first

8. Listen to a playlist of love songs

9. Watch a rescue video

10. Read an article about someone in love


Today’s focus is on using love as a healing tool to eliminate

the high amounts of stress in our lives.


Morning Meditation-Open to Recieving Love

Journal Activity: Create your own list of things you have done in

the past or things you could do to load up on love.

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Global Healing Centre-Article on Using Love to Manage Stress

Yoga in Love: Guru

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A Few Videos-Spreading the Love


Evening Love Meditation:

Peace Love and Namaste-Em

Day Fifty-One: Lesson 7-Emerging From the Roots-Muladhara-The Final Chakra


Am I grounded? If you had asked me that even weeks ago I would have

tried to stifle the out-pour of laughter or tears; but now I could answer “I think I

am getting there” with an average amount of self confidence. I must admit

that my root chakra has always been a kindred spirit; I just didn’t have a

label for it. It is represented in many paintings by trees since it is the human

soul’s version of a root system-hence it’s strength which is to ground us to

our pure version of ourselves. Trees and I go way back-even in my earliest

childhood years-when things at home were dark and foreboding I would

sneak out my first floor window and run to the forest behind my house.

The trees would comfort me and watching them sway gently side to side

made me feel their nurturing, stabilizing power. I felt their energy and today-

my most healing times are those spent in the company of my woodland

friends-Mother Nature’s profound sculptures.

My second level of Reiki; there was a young man there dressed in beautiful

nymphesque clothing-a kindred fashionista; drawn to hippie-natural

threads-we complimented one another on our outfits and then continued

on. He felt very familiar; but I couldn’t put my finger on how, where or why?

At the end of our group Reiki session we shared our observations about the

process and he said that my root chakra was very strong. Though it was

a surprise to me; the amount at which I had grown since my Level 1 class

allowed me to truly believe that all the spiritual work I had done, and

the copious amounts of self Reiki treatments I did had paid off. I felt

like an ever evolving tree; roots finally intact; the rest on its way to

reconstructing itself into something more than I was before life tore

me down.


Today’s focus will be on raising our awareness of how

our root chakra can be healed and what we can do to strengthen

and balance it.

Morning Meditation: Deepak Chopra


A Stunning Playlist while You Write or Work Today:

Journal Entry: Do you feel rooted and grounded? If not remember a

time when you felt sure and grounded; what was going on at the time? How

do you think you could recreate that sense of being in your life?

Root Chakra Information from Chakra Anatomy Website

The Root Chakra is the first chakra and is located at the base of the spine. It is the root of your being and establishes the deepest connections with your physical body, your environment and with the Earth. Muladhara is the most instinctual of all chakras – it is your survival centre. Your fight and flight response is initiated from this chakra. This is your primal, animal nature.

root chakraThe energy of Muladhara allows us to harness courage, resourcefulness and the will to live during trying times. It connects us with spiritual energies of our ancestors, their challenges and their triumphs.

Since Base Chakra carries our ancestral memories, basically everyone experiences challenges or blockages within muladhara. War, famine, natural disasters, and any events that threaten our basic survival, are all recorded within energies of the first chakra.

These memories are imprinted in the subtle body and are passed down from generation to generation creating unconscious generational patterns. It is our work to take responsibility for our own lives and bring to light that which is unconscious.

All of the seven chakras are important and interconnected with each other. Usually, balancing one chakra will create change in another chakra.

It is important though to balance the Root Chakra first, before we proceed to others, or we will lack the stability and rootedness necessary for true transformation and personal growth. We cannot grow and change unless we feel safe and secure.

First Chakra at a glance:

Root Chakra Affirmations

I feel deeply rooted.
I am connected to my body.
I feel safe and secure.
Just like a tree or a star, I have a right to be here.
I stand for my values, for truth, and for justice.
I have what I need.
I am grounded, stable, and standing on my own two feet.
I nurture my body with healthy food, clean water, exercise, relaxation, and connection with nature.
I am open to possibilities.
I am grateful for all the challenges that helped me to grow and transform.
I trust in the goodness of life.
I make choice that are healthy and good for me.
I trust myself.
I love life.

Sanskrit name: Muladhara – root support
Element: Earth
Color: Red
Shape: Square
Petals of the lotus: Four
Seed sound: LANG
Vowel sound: O
Rights: To have
Endocrine gland: Adrenal cortex
Physical association:The skeletal structure, teeth, large intestine, kidneys, blood
Psychological function: Survival and self preservation
Identity: Physical identity
Developmental stage: Womb to 12 months
Challenge: Fear
Plane: Physical plane
Planets: Saturn, Earth
Deity: Brahma, Dakini, Ganesha
Mythological Animal White elephant with seven trunks
Sense organ: Nose
Predominant sense: Smell
Incense: Cedar
Herb: Sage
Sephira: Malkuth
Tarot suite: Pentacles

root chakra yoga poseYoga Poses (Asanas)

Learn about yoga poses to balance your first chakra. Yoga is an exercise for your body, mind, emotions, and spirit. By practicing yoga, you can connect with the deeper parts of yourself that may not be accessible to you during your daily life. You will also learn to releaseexcess root chakra energy.

Yoga Session for the Root Chakra


Evening Meditation:

10fbbb72e1818f55045dcea4a970f7d4 Peace, Love & Namaste Em

Day Fifty-Lesson 6-Unleashing Your True Passion & Self Confidence-Sacral Chakra (Svasdhisthana)


As a high school counsellor I was on the front lines of the direct effect

the absurd way that sexuality, sex and intimacy were portrayed on the

viral network. How can a child grow up in our era with a healthy sense

of intimacy? How can they protect themselves from being tainted by

the over-sexualized media giant that penetrates them for so many

hours a day. I think if they trust their instincts about intimacy and

show one another mutual respect they have a fighting chance at a

healthy intimate outlook on their sexual health.

The sacral chakra is the core of our sensuality, passion and the

ability and ease at which we express our true selves.

Another topic of note when looking at the sacral chakra is how

conservative and constrained our society is-I am talking about

how we are programmed to sit still for an eight hour school or

work day-and not act too cray cray-so as not to make others feel

uncomfortable. We are so afraid of seeming odd, weird or crazy that

our true passionate nature-which is the most core sense of our being-

is held down and muffled; kicked under the proverbial carpet of

expression. I find it very sad that I have to tone myself down all the

time-I am a very colourful person but in most situations I make sure

that I play the role I am supposed to like a good wife, mother and

upstanding member of the community. Are we all hiding behind our

masks? I believe we are. It takes so much effort to put on our

‘faces’ our ‘costumes’ and read from the script of the real world-

by the time we get home we are so exhausted it is a relief to just

let it all hang out once again.

Today we are focusing on the sacral chakra-the core

of our passion and sensuality.

Morning Meditation: Balancing the Sacral Chakra


Journal Entry: When was the most passionate time of your life?

What was going on in your life at this time and how did it affect

you this way? What could you do now to tap into that passion once



Some fabulous information about the Sacral Chakra from Chakra Anatomy

The Sacral Chakra is your passion and pleasure centre and it is located in the pelvic area. While the Root Chakra is satisfied with survival, the 2nd chakra seeks pleasure and enjoyment.

sacral chakraThe gift of this chakra is experiencing our lives through feelings and sensations. The second chakra is the centre of feeling, emotion, pleasure, sensuality, intimacy, and connection.

The energy of this chakra allows you to let go, to move, and to feel change and transformation occurring within your body. It allows you to experience this moment as it is, in its own fullness.

The main challenge for the second chakra is the conditioning of our society. We live in a society where feelings are not valued, where passion, and emotional reactions are being frowned upon. We are being taught not to “loose control”. And we get disconnected from our bodies, our feelings.

As if this was not enough, we also experience the wounds of our collective cultural struggles over many sexual issues of our society. On one hand sexuality is magnified and glorified, and on the other hand it is rejected. This results in either blocked or excessive second chakra issues.

No wonder we have so many issues with our passion centre, the wellspring of feelings, enjoyment, and sensuality.

Do you love your body? Do you enjoy feeling your body? When was the last time you walked barefoot on the grass and felt the sensation of ground underneath your feet?

The sacral chakra is also your centre of creativity. Passion is the fuel of creative energy. Everything you create, a poem, a drawing, or a website, originates from the energy of second chakra. It is also where your fertility originates. After all, conceiving a child is a creative process.

A person with an open Svadhisthana Chakra is passionate, present in her body, sensual, creative, and connected to her feeling.

Sacral Chakra at a glance:


Sacral Chakra Affirmations

I love and enjoy my body.
I have healthy boundaries.
I am open to experiencing the present moment through my senses.
I am passionate.
I feel pleasure and abundance with every breath I take.
I nourish my body with healthy food and clean water.
I know how to take care of my needs.
I value and respect my body.
I am open to touch and closeness.
I allow myself to experience pleasure.
My sexuality is sacred.
Emotions are the language of my soul.
I take good care of my physical body.
I am at peace.


Sanskrit name: Svadhisthana (sweetness)
Element: Water
Color: Orange
Shape: Circle with crescent
Petals of the lotus: Six
Seed sound: VANG
Vowel sound: Oo
Rights: To feel, to want
Endocrine gland: Ovaries, testicles
Physical association: Womb, genitals, kidney, bladder
Psychological function: Movement and connection
Identity: Emotional
Developmental stage: 6 months – 2 years
Challenge: Guilt
Plane: Astral plane
Planets: Mercury, Jupiter, Moon
Deity: Indra, Rakini, Vishnu
Mythological Animal:
Incense: Gardenia, damiana
Herb: Fennel, corriander
Sephira: Yesod
Tarot Suit: Cups

As you try these sacral chakra balancing poses try listening to

this incredible Kundalini music by Uma Mohan:

trikonasanaYoga Poses

The best sacral chakra yoga poses are those that work with movement in the hips and lower abdomen. Some poses are aimed at opening and some are aimed at moving energy through this area. Learn yoga poses to open the flow of creativity in your life, to feel more sensual and to experience your life with more passion.

sun salutation imageSun Salutation

Sacral Chakra – Sun Salutation to encourage graceful, flowing movements. Movements that keep us fluid and flexible in body, mind, and spirit. Learn the sequence of 12 powerful poses to balance your second chakra.

 Evening Meditation: Chakra Balancing Music for Sleep


Peace, Love & Namaste Em

Day Forty-Nine: Lesson 5-Let Your Manipura Glow-The Solar Plexus Chakra


Our solar plexus is the core of who we truly are. Yesterday we looked

at the throat chakra and learned that in strengthening it we are able

to more freely speak our truth. When we balance and give our solar

plexus power we act our truth.

During my life I have tried very hard to grasp onto meaning wherever

possible and succumb to the powerful lessons I learn about how to

be a better person in our world. I think we all do? Do we? That is

a profound question-one worth exploring more…

When one is disconnected to their core or solar plexus (Manipura)

their self esteem is at stake and wavering-they begin to make snap

judgements about others as a way to temporarily soothe the

emptiness they feel within themselves. Think about it people,

have you ever felt evolved after talking nastily about a fellow

human being? I think not-as each nasty word flows from our

lips we are pushed further from our source of being.

The first time I did the pitta solar plexus meditation below I

felt like a glowing yellow paintbrush entered into my soul

and with its artistry created a masterpiece of solidity and

ethereal beauty. This meditation can be done at any time;

it is short but extremely powerful.

Morning Mediation: 

Solar Plexus Chakra Information-Chakra Anatomy Website:

The Solar Plexus Chakra, located between the navel and solar plexus, is your power centre – your Core Self. While the Sacral chakra seeks pleasure and enjoyment, the third chakra is all about who you are.


The gift of this chakra is sensing your personal power, being confident, responsible, and reliable. The third chakra is the centre of your self-esteem, your willpower, self-discipline, as well as warmth in your personality.

The energy of this chakra allows you to transform inertia into action and movement. It allows you to meet challenges and mover forward in your life.


The main challenge for the third chakra is to use your personal power in a balanced manner. What does that mean? It means consciously harnessing the energy of the solar plexus chakra. It means being proactive rather then reactive or inactive.

People with excessive third chakra energy react to life circumstances, they have emotional outbursts and are often stressed out. People with blocked or deficient third chakra are passive and inactive – allowing life to pass by while they do nothing.

Strong third chakra reflects the ability to move forward in life with confidence and power. It reflects the ability to make conscious choices to choose and to act.

The message of the third chakra is: You have the power to choose. Your can choose to achieve your life purpose or you can live out your karma or past experiences.

What do you choose? Do you choose love, light and healing? Do you accept that you have the power to choose? Do you feel a sense of freedom when you make a choice?

The third chakra is the centre of your self-esteem. Every time you judge or criticize yourself, you deplete this chakra and weaken your willpower. Self love, self acceptance, and acknowledgement of your own worth are the building blocks of the third chakra.

A woman with an open and balanced Manipura Chakra values herself and her work, is confident in her ability to do something well, loves and accepts herself, is willing to express herself in a powerful way, knows that she has the freedom to choose to be herself and direct her own life.


Solar Plexus Chakra at a glance:

Art Journal Exercise: Purchase a canvas or a pad of watercolor paper.

Draw a circular mandala design and paint or colour it in shades of

yellow-write as many or all of the affirmations below on the artwork.

Hang somewhere you will easily be able to access.


Solar Plexus Chakra Affirmations

I love and accept myself.
I stand up for myself.
I am strong and courageous.
I am worthy of love, kindness, and respect.
I choose the best for myself.
I express myself in a powerful way.
I am proud of my achievements.
I honor my self.
I choose healthy relationships.
I am authentic.
I direct my own life.
I appreciate my strengths.
I feel my own power.
I am free to choose in any situation.
I seek opportunities for personal and spiritual growth.
I am at peace with myself.

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Sanskrit name: Manipura (lustrous gem)
Element: Fire
Color: Yellow
Shape: Triangle (downward-pointing)
Petals of the lotus: Ten
Seed sound: Ram
Vowel sound: Ah
Rights: To act
Endocrine gland: Adrenals, pancreas
Physical association: Digestive system, liver, gall bladder
Psychological function: Will
Identity: Ego identity
Developmental stage: 18 – 42 months
Challenge: Shame
Plane: Celestial plane
Planets: Sun and Mars
Deity: Rudra, Lakini
Mythological Animal: Ram
Incense: Saffron, musk, sandalwood
Herb: Cinnamon, ginger
Sephira: Hod, Netzach
Tarot Suit: Wands

solar plexus chakra bow poseYoga Poses

The best solar plexus chakra yoga poses are those that strengthen your core and help you to feel more powerful and confident. Step into the Warrior I pose to access your inner spiritual warrior or go deeper with courage into the Bow pose. Continue into part 2 yoga poses, such as Boat pose or Lion’s pose.


Music for the Solar Plexus by the Stunning Sheila Chandra

A Delectable Playlist for the Solar Plexus

Yoga for the Solar Plexus:

Evening Meditation:


Peace, Love & Namaste Em

Day Forty-Eight: Lesson 4-Visuddha/The Throat Chakra-There’s Power in Speaking Your Truth


Have you ever felt like you are holding your tongue more often than

you are speaking your truth? Yes there is honor in silence as the

great sages tell us. We try to be humble and kind and there is a 

sense that by saying nothing we are taking the higher ground. But

if we are silent for the wrong reasons it can be a slow and torturous

way to exist in your world. The more you hold your tongue the more

the words build up and then they reach the peek of resentment and

come tumbling down the mountain of truth. There is strength in

speaking your truth-even if the listeners of your truth may disagree.

If you are in a healthy relationship you should be able to say absolutely

anything that is on your mind (other than those nasty little hormonal

thoughts or the daggers that creep out after a shitty day). An unhealthy

relationship is one where you are constantly screening your inner script

and only saying what your co-partner would like to hear.

The key in speaking your truth can be to ensure that what you are saying

comes from a place of sincerity and honor. The last thing you want is to

leave a collaboration with someone only to beat yourself up for not

releasing those little gems or ideas or for not saying something that

maybe didn’t compliment the other person’s discourse. 

If you feel silenced in a relationship you may want to consider letting

it go, or if it is one you will not let go of, redefine your role with that

person by coming right out and saying what is unbalanced in that



Morning Meditation:


Winter Trees at Sunset

Some information about the Throat Chakra:

Throat Chakra Music 


Journal Entry:- As you listen to the Throat Chakra Music create your

own journal page resembling the image above. Draw and make connections to 

your symptoms as well as what you can do to heal them. 


Create Seven Positive Affirmations relating to speaking your truth.


Yoga for the Throat Chakra

Evening Meditation:

Peace, Love & Namaste Em

Day Forty-Seven: Lesson 3-Anja & Intuition-Opening the Third Eye Chakra


Have you ever had a strong sense that you need to call someone? A

feeling that something will slip from a surface or spill? An undeniable

urge to change lanes or a vision of something you fear happening?

We all have an intuitive sense of our surroundings but our faith

in them is the issue that can cause blockages within. When we don’t

listen to what our intuitive thoughts are saying we miss opportunities

to tap into a formidable source.

When my sister was going through her spiritual awakening the last

two years of her life here on our humble earth-she said something

to me that I follow to the “T”. “Em, if you think of someone, don’t

think just go for the phone and call them right away.” I have tried to

follow this instruction as we do have connections to others that are

stronger than we know.

If we turn on the light of intuition we see the magic that has always

existed around us. Intuition crosses all boundaries of religion, culture,

etc.; all those things that divide us. If we open ourselves to it we

are opening our “brow, Anja or third eye chakra” Third eye meaning

what you don’t see with your physical eye, but the ability to see what

lies beneath-sense with your third eye.

Please understand that you don’t have to be spiritual, religious,

special, psychic, shamanic etc. to clear the debris from your third eye;

you just need to want to experience the gifts this intuition will

fill your life with.


Today’s focus will be on learning how to recognize blockages

with your Anja and how to tap into it’s power by healing it and acknowledging

what the possibilities it provides are.

Morning Meditation: 

Journal Entry: What would your life be like if you “emancipated yourself

from mental slavery and followed your heart and intuition?

Bob Marley’s Song-Redemption Song-Listen to the words

before you write.


All of the Following Information is taken from The Curative Soul

6th Third-eye or Brow:  Indigo chakra located between and just above the physical eyes, in the center of the brows. Its Sanskrit name is ajna.  The third-eye chakra is associated with the mind, ideas, thoughts, dreams, intuition and psychic abilities.

If the third-eye chakra becomes unbalanced, we may feel bombarded with our own thoughts, unable to process them effectively and may feel stuck in an emotional and intellectual rut.  We lose our sense of intuition, making our judgment clouded and causing us to make poor decisions.  With a blocked third-eye chakra, we become closed to new ideas and fall off the paths of our true destiny.

Common psychological symptoms of an unbalanced third-eye chakra: headaches and migraines, nightmares, seizures, neurological disorders, personality disorders and neuroses, learning difficulties, and hallucinations.

Common physical symptoms of an unbalanced third-eye chakra: eye problems, glaucoma, ear problems and hearing difficulties, spinal conditions, and scalp/hair issues.

Healing the Third-Eye Chakra:

Balancing and opening the third-eye chakra promotes clarity, inspiration, and innovation.  It allows us to follow our dreams and enhances our innate psychic abilities and spiritual connections.  A balanced third-eye chakra helps us process the timeline of our own lives, enabling us to learn from our past, be present in the now, and see and achieve our future.   Dream interpretation becomes easier, intuitions are stronger and clearer, and we feel a deeper connection to the universal plan of our lives.  This sense of being “guided” opens up doors of possibilities to reaching our goals. It is important to wear or carry crystals/gemstones to heal the third-eye chakra and maintain its positive energy flow.

Healing Foods for the Third Eye Chakra


Music to Open Your Third Eye Chakra

30 Minutes of Yoga to Activate the Third Eye


Evening Meditation:

Peace, Love & Namaste Em

Day Forty-Six: Lesson 2-Sahasrara-Introducing the Crown Chakra


Ever since childhood I have felt the pain of others and any living being. Luckily

and sometimes unluckily I have a son who experiences the world the same way.

My connection with Buddhism stems from this powerful empathy and compassion

for others, not matter how small or seemingly insignificant. The sense that radiates

from an open crown chakra is this feeling of connection with others. It can be a

tremendous gift but can also cause challenges; there is a large element of sacrifice

that goes along with deeply loving others. My son wept in the park beside our home

when he was five when some other children tore branches off the tree. The depth

of his love for nature caused this innate reaction of pain for the tree.

This chakra also is connected physically to the head, brain and nervous system.

Have you ever felt that you are connected to everything around you? That

there are cosmic connections and beautiful coincidences that aren’t necessarily

coincidences but messages that are laid out for you to witness and experience?

If you are awake to the spiritual goings on in your world and the universe your

connection to this chakra is strong. If you feel disconnected from it; maybe

this is a sign that you need to slow down the pace of your life so you can

feel more balanced.

The crown chakra is also connected to your relationship with your biological

father and your ‘source’. If you have a disconnected relationship with your

father you may notice that the crown has an imbalance and is in need of



Today’s focus will be on learning and healing the crown chakra.


Journal Entry: How compassionate and empathetic are you? 

How does this serve you in your world? What could you do to

balance or intensify this skill.

Fun & Upbeat Morning Meditation-Love This!-Full Chakra Chanting



More incredible music by Sheila Chandra-Her Album Nada Brahma


Information about the Crown Chakra


Crown Chakra Healing

35 Minutes of Kundalini Yoga-Intense and Connects us to the Source

Evening Mediation:

Peace, Love & Namaste Em