When I was a child and in my youth I had a phobia of being alone.
In the darkness I had been violated and betrayed so loneliness was a
fearful ‘dark passenger’ in my life. I depended on others to fill me up
or distract me I suppose in reality. One day a friend of mine said through
gritted teeth “Gawd Emily, don’t you ever have an original opinion? I
swear you are just a product of everyone else!” The truth hit me like a
metal wrecking ball and I came to the realization that I did depend on
others to define me in goodness and in negativity. I was lonely then.
Now I crave moments I spend alone; I am almost giddy when I have
the luxurious slices of solitude where I get to confidently make a
blueprint of what I will create, do or imagine. Learning to embrace
my solace has come and gone depending on my personal strength
and how my self confidence gauge is doing. The benefits of being
alone; there is no one to put on an act in front of, things crawl
along at your own pace, you are draining none of your energy,
it is self directed, I can fill you up, you can build a solid foundation
with yourself-hey! remember, you are the one that will stick by you
no matter what whether you like it or not.
If you’re searching for someone to constantly make you feel whole
you are Being Lonely. If you are content and purposeful about ensuring you
have time in your schedule for yourself-you are Being Alone.
Today’s focus will be on learning to embrace your time
alone and paying attention to what you have to offer
If you had one day completely alone; what types of things would
you do with yourself-please focus on only the things that will uplift your spirit.
Blog Entry’s on Being Alone
A beautiful blog entry on Being Alone-Nanette Thomas
Bringing Back Awesome
Physical Activity: Go for a walk in nature completely alone.
Abraham Hicks-Embrace Yourself
Playlist for Solitude
Evening Meditation-Louise Hay
Peace, Love & Namaste Em