Today I must write about a topic that has been the center of many
conversations with my fellow female human beings. It needs to
be the topic today because I have been at my lowest and questioning
my place in the world. Today as I shared this with a friend, she looked
me straight in the eye and listed all the things I have accomplished and
survived and how very proud she was of the woman I am and have been.
She moved me to tears and we hugged in the middle of the forest.
Later as I still felt defeated she helped me rise up out of the ashes again;
a practice we take turns doing for one another. That is true sisterhood.
That is what our relationships with one another should ideally do; we
should lift one another up as high as we can reach.
Women can be one another’s most cherished allies: they can also pave a
path of destruction for one another-but why? Is it fear, jealousy, our innate
competitive nature that drives our decision to tear a member of the
sisterhood down? What is it we’re gaining when we abuse a women in
our circle? If you gossip or judge another without knowing her intricately
woven story don’t you feel dirty and hollow afterwards? When you’re doing it
you may get a false sense of instant gratification, but who is winning? Who
loses? If you participate in these behaviors there are consequences and
long terms symptoms, they are as follows; a loss of self respect, a drastic
drop in social allies (positive ones anyway), a replay of the negative incident
when you are trying to fall asleep at night…Dare I continue?
The world of feminism has come a long way, but from my meager
observances, it is typically women who destroy one another in the path to the
top of the corporate ladder.
Why are we submitting one another to more pain than we already submit
ourselves to? Women already end up taking on more than they can
handle and are fearful of saying no in their jobs and life-God forbid someone thinks
a working mother is being distracted by her small children.
Can you feel the sadness behind my words.
We have enough that challenges on a daily basis. My goodness, can’t we
just support one another?
The world is a hard enough place without having to watch your back all day
long and wonder what the gals are saying behind the water cooler.
Ladies, this is something I see over and over again and it is the reason
I ended up close to work related death. My soul died because of the
mistreatment of it-and in the privacy of my office I saw that I was not
the only one feeling so isolated in a building full of ‘sisters’.
Who would you rather be? Cinderella or her ugly stepsisters?
Think next time you feel the need to downgrade another woman.
Remember she has her own story and you do not know what it is.
Let’s share with one another and with that security and sisterhood
we will naturally rise to the top, where we deserve and are meant
Today’s focus will be on strengthening our ties with the
uplifting women in our lives and observing those with women
who may be doing more damage than good.
Morning Meditation: Healing and Strength to the Feminine
Journal Entry: Consider which women in your life you have
an equal and fulfilling relationship with. What makes those relationships
healthy and balanced. Now who do you feel is harming you and doing
more damage than good? Do you feel strong enough to release them?
Consider writing them a letter. Send it or don’t. It will heal you regardless.
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Her text carried me through some of the most treacherous times in my life. She has
lived and learned so much and has offered our world such richness.
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Much Love to You My Sister
Much Love, Peace & Namaste